Suddenly your focus has shifted, your time and emotions are consumed with taking care of your baby, and you secretly worry you may never experience romantic love again. But never fear, romance is in the eye and heart of the beholder! Having a baby, breastfeeding, being a mom, can actually add romance to your relationship. All it takes is a dash of humor, sensitivity and a shift in perception.
Having my squeamish “I am disgusted by bodily fluids” husband standing next to me, by turns holding my hand, wiping my brow, propping me up, as I gave birth.
Seeing him go into commando mode and hunt down a doctor, nurse or any passerby and demand attention for me.
Watching him as he held our baby, looking dazed and awed, never wanting to let go.
Hanging on to him as he helped me shuffle to the bathroom, stood over me as I sat on the toilet then helped me get up and put myself back together.
Laughing with him as he asked how my nether parts were feeling (even as I sat in the bed suffering postpartum blues, which included worrying not just about how my nether parts were feeling but about whether my nether parts would ever be the same?…)
Looking at in him in awe as he stood by the bed, holding my breast while I tried to breastfeed (because it seemed it was impossible to breastfeed with only two hands!)
Tearing up as he carried one child on his shoulders and one in his arms and strutted around the mall, his expression saying “Yeah, I’m the man, and these are the fruits of my loins!”
So, mommas, don’t be afraid that romance goes away when you have children. It’s there, just waiting to ambush you in your most sensitive moments.
Listen to your heart, find your definition of romance, and never let it go…